Being without a Valentine on Valentine’s Day can make anyone feel a little lonely. Try to see Valentine’s Day as a celebration of love and care, rather than a reminder of being single. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. Share this day with others and make them feel loved and appreciated. Treat yourself to things that make you feel good. Avoid viewing Valentine’s Day as a day full of high expectations. You define what each day means to you.
- Make the day about self-care. Do things that make you feel good and relaxed. Focus on activities that calm you down and put your mind at ease. The most important love you have is the love of yourself. Be kind to yourself in mind, body and spirit. Consider these ways to relax and let go:
- get a massage
- go to a day spa
- take a hot shower or bath
- Do meditation or breathing exercises
- Listen to music while sipping your favorite drink. Hot chocolate. Tea. Liquor. beer. whatever sounds good to you.
- read a book or some magazines
- Watch some movies or TV shows that you enjoy. Consider avoiding useless things that put you in a bad mood about Valentine’s Day.
- Relax with activities you love. Do activities that make you happy. You may have a hobby that you enjoy, or you may have thought of starting a new creative hobby. Instead of feeling bad, remind yourself of what you can do. Get your creative juices flowing in these ways:
- draw or paint. Find things that will help you heal from feeling bad or lonely.
- make some. If you’re a productive person, work on a project that makes you feel good and productive.
- Write Write in a journal. write poetry. Write short stories. Write down anything that makes you feel like you’re getting through this day and finding this time rewarding.
- Do the things that you have always enjoyed doing. Valentine’s Day should be about what you love to do.
- be active. Moving and being active instead of sitting on the couch. You may feel less depressed if you move your body in healthy ways. Take some time out to make yourself feel better. Exercise and drink plenty of water.
- going for a walk.
- Find a relaxing park to enjoy the outdoors.
- go to the gym.
- Take a fitness class.
- Get creative in the kitchen. While indulging in chocolate is part of a Valentine’s Day tradition, think of using the day as an opportunity to get creative with cooking. You don’t necessarily need to go to a restaurant to eat good food. Consider using this day as a way to get clever with your culinary skills at home.
- Bake cookies, pastries and sweets that aren’t your typical desserts.
- Focus less on high-fat foods and find recipes that are fresh, healthy, and inventive.
- Think red with your food. Red capsicum. Cherry. Strawberries. Tomato. Red onion. red wine.
- Making a delicious meal with little effort can seem even more rewarding.
[Edit]sharing the day with others
- Give Valentine’s Day cards or gifts to others. Remember when you were a kid in elementary school? You must have given Valentine’s Day cards to other classmates in school. You were taught to be kind and loving to all. Take action and give back to those around you.
- Give Valentine’s Day cards to show your support for your friends, family, and coworkers. Valentine’s Day cards don’t have to be just romantic in nature. They can be fun, playful and happy.
- Bring some treats to share with others at work or school. Be sure to make others feel appreciated on this day. Others like you may feel neglected. Remind them that today is about being helpful and kind.
- Plan a lunch, dinner or party with single friends. Plan an activity like lunch, dinner, or a hangout after school or work. If you want to have a party, you can design your own or attend a pre-planned one.
- Lunch can work well for people who have busy evenings. Plan this lunch in advance so it doesn’t happen at the last minute and they can attend.
- Consider having dinner at home with your other single friends. Make it a fun experience with creative food and activities.
- Schedule a party with other singles. If you want to meet other singles on this day, consider creating a singles party or attending a singles event with friends.
- Involve your pets. If your furry friend is the love of your life, keep an eye out for Valentine’s events that involve your pet. Public parks or dog parks may have pet parties, parades or meetups where you can bring your pet and celebrate with other animal lovers.
- Volunteer. There may be Valentine’s events in your community that need your help – for example, a children’s play at the community center, or a party hosted by your church. You can also give your time and service to a soup kitchen, domestic violence shelter, animal shelter, nursing home or hospital to support others on this day. Volunteering has been shown to improve the psychological well-being of volunteers and it can also help you feel less lonely.
- Reach out to friends and family who are supportive. Take this time to remind yourself that being alone and lonely is something that everyone experiences at some point. Use this holiday as a way to connect with loved ones and friends who may be going through difficult times.
- Call on relatives who have helped you – parents, grandparents, aunts or uncles. Wish them Happy Valentine’s Day. They deserve your love just as much as anyone else.
- Call, write or text your friends you haven’t talked to in a while. Show that you are still thinking about them and that they matter to you.
- Be kind to helpful friends and kind strangers on Valentine’s Day. You never know what someone might be going through. Consider saying, “I hope you had a wonderful day. You are amazing.” They can respond to those words to you and to others as well.
[Edit]letting go of high expectations
- Avoid making this holiday all about your relationship status. Make a conscious effort to love yourself and others on this day. Avoid waiting around or hoping that someone else will fix everything and make you feel better. Whether you are single or not, you are the best judge of what matters to you. 
- Focus on how you can take an active role in making yourself feel better on Valentine’s Day.
- Avoid seeing Valentine’s Day in simple terms only as romantic love.
- Remember that this is a made-up holiday. Everything you see and what you are told about Valentine’s Day is through advertising. You are welcome to create your own traditions for this day.
- Focus your time on those who care about you. Redirect your negative thoughts about being unloved or unloved to about who cares and loves you. You are often your harshest critic on a holiday like Valentine’s Day. You may have unrealistic expectations of what the day should be like.
- Instead of focusing on your shortcomings, remember the people who care and love you.
- Be kind and generous with your words. Let the people around you know what makes them special.
- Most likely you have more than one love in your life. Love doesn’t need to be defined by your partner. Love can also be shared with friends and family. Spend maximum time with them. Make an effort to show that they mean just as much to you as this romantic person you are looking for.
- Make this day about gratitude. Not having a Valentine on Valentine’s Day can make you feel like you want to go back to your comfort zone. Instead of feeling sad, remember those who have had hard times and are alone too. Giving back and thanking those around you will make you feel better about the day.
- Give food or your time to the needy.
- Visit patients in a hospice or older adults in a retirement community. An unexpected meeting can increase their enthusiasm. Be sure to ask permission before leaving.
- Help an acquaintance with a challenging task at work or school.
- Be present and think about the good things in your life. Take a few minutes to clear your mind and remember three things you are grateful for at this point in your life.
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